“Mom, you dress old… yeah wife you do.” Wait what? “Yeah that ponytail and the clothes and the way you lean your head on the window when driving.” Are you kidding me? I heard this about 14 years ago and boy was I offended. How dare they? I mean my jeans were mom jeans, the ponytail wasn't the sleekest and yes it felt comfortable to drive with my head against the window. But what they were saying was true. All of it. You could probably fit two people in the jeans I was wearing and so yeah it was time to get myself together. In order for me to do so I had to start investing in myself. It meant taking clothes that made me look as though I was 20 years older and to begin to invest in those jeans that fit oh so nicely and throwing on some jewelry and visiting the hair salon more often. Mani and pedis became part of my routine and I started to get my head off the window, You may be thinking look Mick I don't have the time nor the money for that. I’m going to say this, just because you're broke for now you don't have to look broke. Just because you don't have time now doesn't mean you have to look like you don't have time. If you cant afford to get your nails done, do them yourself. Find a hairstyle that easy to manage and rock it. And more importantly get some mental help, find a therapist or life coach to see why your head is on the window. If you choose not to, find a really encouraging girlfriend or find a woman who has your best interest at heart. It can be an auntie, the lady in the church, a really good coworker or someone you met on social media. But be selfish. Being selfish isn't always a bad thing! Get the help you need. You want to give out good vibes and part of it is appearance, but not just on the outside but on the inside. Your inside appearance is super important. Have you ever met someone that had a gorgeous outside appearance but on the inside was so broken that it leaves you baffled.Or do you have a friend who is just inside ugly? Like this chick is drop dead gorgeous but inside she’s so ugly, mean spirited, can barely keep friends, cant keep a man, and you only want to go around her out of obligation. It’s because she's not working on the inside. More than likely, bitterness, pain or unresolved issues has caused her to be ugly. You have to get help and figure out who you are in order to be a better you. Spend some time and money and invest in yourself. Also don't be afraid to ask the people you trust, what they think. If you never get compliments on your hair or your clothes you probably need to revamp. Or if you never get compliments from those around you about being nice or you have a great personality you may need to solicit some outside resources. And finally stop looking so tired all the time, it’s just 9am and you look like you've been at work all day. Get some rest, not just going to sleep but rest! Rest your mind and your body. You may need to get up 15 minutes earlier to just sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or tea. Spending a few minutes of quiet relaxing time is essential to how you feel and look. Take some time to take care of yourself, the results are priceless and remember when you look good, you feel good!